Project information

Wise Guys - Men's Domestic Abuse Programme

A support programme for men who have experienced domestic abuse or violence. Men often don't feel able to share the trauma of abuse and the labels that go with it. Future Living offers therapeutic support and trauma counselling with a listening ear in a safe and non judgemental space.

January 2019 - December 2019

Charity information: Future Living Hertford

Future Living Hertford
  • Need


    Men often don't disclose the fact that they are or have been abused - it's shameful, doesn't fit with the stereotypical image of a man, or is just too painful to confront. They fear being judged - they fear the perpetrator. There are many services for women. This is the first of its kind 12 week recovery programme just for men that will help rebuild self esteem and confidence, and help them to make better relationship choices in the future and how to stay safe.


    Through therapeutic group work with like minded men we we will rebuild self esteem and take the shame out of the issue for men. Our single sex treatment programmes with women have proved highly effective. We build a support network where men can feel accepted and safe. We tackle PTSD that comes with this type of abuse through weekly personally counselling.
    We will help men to move forward supporting them with training/ volunteering opportunities to move forward and flourish in their lives.

  • Aims

    Aim 1

    To provide a supported network for men with people with similar experiences.


    » Engage a group of up to 20 men with similar experiences in a therapeutic group
    » Provide a supported public community space in onsite cafe
    » Provide volunteering opportunities

    What success will look like

    Monitor attendance at sessions.
    Evaluate engagement and success/failures through our online evaluation software, self disclosing measurements and observation by professionals.

    Aim 2

    Provide understanding and solution focused work surrounding the issue of male domestic abuse


    » Host weekly group feelings meetings where men care share their experiences without fear or judgement with like minded men
    » Provide group workshops educating men on strategies to overcome their difficulties and manage their lives
    » Provide weekly personal counselling to overcome PTSD

    What success will look like

    Monitor numbers attending.
    Feedback from the group about their understanding through self disclosing questionnaires.
    Measure disclosure within the sessions.

    Aim 3

    To reduce shame, anxiety and depression in men who have suffered domestic abuse.


    » Host weekly group feelings meetings with men with similar issues where men can share their experiences knowing and understanding they are not alone.
    » Provide weekly personal counselling

    What success will look like

    Through the use of international recognised OQ45 questionnaires that measure anxiety and depression, social role and interpersonal relationships.
    Observation by counsellors.

    Aim 4

    To rebuild confidence and self esteem to enable men to move forward and flourish in life


    » Provide supported in house training skills sessions in a variety of subjects
    » Provide supported volunteering and paid for work opportunities within the charity and with its partners

    What success will look like

    Record numbers taking up training, volunteering and paid for work.
    Record those interested in peer mentoring or facilitating the next group

  • Impact


    That men will have understanding and acceptance surrounding what happened to them, negating the shame. That is was not their fault.
    How to make better decisions in future surrounding safety and relationships.
    We ill demonstrate this by numbers completing the course, those who have remained in or taken up volunteering or employment. Those exhibiting measured reduced emotional distress scales.
    Men wanting to support others through peer mentoring or facilitating further group work.


    Lack of funding or suitable staff would be a risk to the programme.
    Not identifying and recruiting a suitable Project Lead.
    Insufficient counselling staff
    Danger from a perpetrator.
    We have dealt with these risks by:
    1. Applying for a variety of funding opportunities to support the work
    2. Training staff from our placement counselling cohort of volunteers to deliver the work.
    3. Full Risk assessment at outset with client
    4. Increased advertising for counsellors with colleges.


    We will report to donors int he following ways:
    1. Emailed copy of final external evaluation of project.
    2. Quarterly newsletter
    3. Invitation to our AGM and other public events to hear clients speak.
    4. Our website, facebook pages and twitter.

  • Budget

    Budget - Project Cost: £23,338

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      Amount Heading Description
      £10,400 Project Lead 16 hours @ 12.50 per hour (two days a week for one year)
      £7,488 Facilitator 16 hours @ £9 per hour for two days a week for one year
      £2,100 Programme a Writing comprehensive programme and training manual for male victims of Domestic Abuse
      £250 Research Independent research into male DV
      £2,000 Core Costs 10% contribution towards core costs
      £500 Training & Volunteer expenses DBS Checks, training to deliver programme, travel for volunteers
      £300 Project Development & Market Develop and market project utilising social media, website, promo literature, flyers and posters
      £300 Project evaluation External development by psychologist of programme efficaicy

    Current Funding / Pledges

    Source Amount
    HCC Contract Project Lead £10,400 Guaranteed
    Cllr. Colin Woodward - Prpject research £250 Guaranteed
    Cllr. Colin Woodward - programme and training manual writing £2,100 Guaranteed
  • Background


    The project will be located in the County Town of Hertford with good transport links providing services across Hertfordshire and includes areas of multiple deprivation and poverty.


    Men who have experienced domestic abuse and violence whether current or historical. Men who have misused substances to self medicate their difficulties.
    Men who have anxiety and depression and lack of confidence as a result of domestic violence and abuse.

  • Why Us?

    Why Us?

    Future Living Hertford has 4 years experience of domestic abuse with female clients . This work has been evidenced and externally evaluated to confirm its successes. A single sex group has also been evidenced as being the most suitable environment for therapeutic intervention.
    The charity is also Lead Champion for Hertfordshire in domestic abuse providing a dedicated onsite drop in centre, training to community partners and local business on how to recognise signs of domestic abuse.

    Read more about the Charity running this project.


    Sandra Conte

    Founder and CEO of Future Living holding overall responsibility for programme writing and delivery.

    Shirley Hill

    Domestic VIolence caseworker for Future Living Hertford. Project Lead for this project, co delivering the therapeutic group work.

    Unknown - Yet To Be Recruited

    Facilitator delivering group therapy, key working and advocacy.

    Danielle Davis

    Counsellor - providing personal weekly counselling for clients.