Project information

Better Families

to develop and support healthy relationships by helping couples, families, individuals and young people make their relationships work better. To deliver inclusive and high quality services that are relevant at every stage of life


Charity information: Relate Lancashire

Relate Lancashire
  • Need


    Our hope would be to alleviate the destructive impact of conflict and family breakdown especially on children and young people. Children of separated parents frequently suppress their pain and grief, releasing the emotions through disruptive behaviour. Experience tells us that family breakdown is a driver for many negative outcomes for children, young people and adults alike.


    Undeniably the problem is huge but our confidential services would provide a place of safety and support for people in crisis to access talking therapies and engage in effective communication and become proficient in conflict resolution

  • Aims

    Aim 1

    To offer reduced cost or even free support for those people unable to contribute.


    » To offer a minimum of six sessions of counselling/therapy

    What success will look like

    Success will be when we are in a financial position to be able to offer least cost therapy for those in need

    Aim 2

    To resolve conflict between partners and families, to facilitate better understanding


    » To promote respectful and effective communication

    What success will look like

    Success will be when partners/families demonstrate an understanding of others' positions

    Aim 3

    Where family breakdown is inevitable to facilitate a less conflicted process for all concerned.


    » Facilitate empathy and cooperation between all parties

    What success will look like

    Success will be when couples are able to consider the children's needs above all others

  • Impact


    The family is where the vast majority of us learn the fundamental skills for life, using our parents (or carers) and their relationship as a template for our own future relationships. It follows therefore if the parents are in a respectful and stable relationships the benefits will be experienced by the child who will in turn pass the learning on for generations to come. Outcome measures are assessed from client entrance and exit questionnaires.


    the risk to us is purely financial. Historically we have been supported by Local Authority grants but as a result of the economic downturn these resources are no longer available to us. This loss of funding impacts only on those unable to contribute for our services, those who, very often, are the most in need. Searching for alternative funding sources is ongoing. we have pared the costs of overheads to the bone and rely very heavily on an army of faithful volunteers.


    Donors will receive an annual report and three-monthly updates if required

  • Budget

    Budget - Project Cost: £50,000

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      Amount Heading Description
      £17,815 counsellor wages for a minimum of 1000 counselling hours offered
      £6,720 supervisor salaries supervision of counselling
      £12,220 management & admin allocating appointments, overseeing project
      £2,665 rent counselling rooms
      £3,540 overheads rates, insurance, utilities
      £7,040 office expenses general running costs

    Current Funding / Pledges

    Source Amount
    Daniels & Houghtons Charity £4,000 Guaranteed
    Dulverton Trust £1,000 Guaranteed
  • Background


    Relate Lancashire offers its services to a poulation of nearly 1.5 million. We have offices in Preston, Blackburn, Ormskirk, lancaster and St. Annes. Lancashire is a multi-faceted region that contains many towns that are a product of an earlier industrial era and whose rate of economic growth has lagged behind the national rate of change. Six Lancashire authorities i.e. Blackburn, Blackpool, Burnley, Hyndburn, Pendle and Preston are recorded as being within the 50 most deprived in England


    Those individuals, couples, families and young people struggling with relationship/family difficulties, conflict and breakdown, experiencing financial difficulty will be the direct beneficiaries but in the longer term society as a whole will benefit. official Tax and Benefit Model tables (Kirby 2005) estimate a cost of between £4,000-£15,000 per family breakdown plus the indirect impact on employment, education, health, crime, police, prisons etc.

  • Why Us?

    Why Us?

    Relate has been the leading provider of relationship counselling in the UK for over 70 years. Relate Lancashire is a member of the Relate federation. Our counsellors are trained (some to Masters level) by the Relate Institute a centre of excellence for relationship studies. Our counsellors abide by the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy Ethical Framework, Child Safeguarding and Diversity and Equality policies

    Read more about the Charity running this project.


    Margaret Tonge

    Joint CEO, who when not fulfilling this role offer her services as counsellor, supervisor and trainer. Margaret has worked for Relate for 27.5 years